Finding a therapist is hard enough — finding one who is truly affirming, trauma-informed, and LGBTQ+ competent can feel overwhelming. At AMR Therapy & Support Services, we understand the importance of finding a provider who sees you, respects you, and supports your healing without judgment or bias.
While many therapists claim to be “LGBTQ+ friendly,” it’s important to recognize that friendliness isn’t the same as true cultural competency. Here are some important red flags to watch for when choosing a therapist, especially for queer and trans clients:
1. They Avoid Talking About Identity
If a therapist seems uncomfortable when you bring up your sexuality, gender identity, or experiences with discrimination, that’s a major red flag. Your lived experiences are integral to your mental health journey — a competent therapist will welcome and validate these conversations, not sideline them.
2. They Try to Stay “Neutral” About LGBTQ+ Issues
While neutrality might sound professional, when it comes to your humanity, neutrality is harmful. A therapist who won’t openly affirm your identity or who suggests “both sides” of LGBTQ+ issues are equally valid is not providing safe, affirming care.
3. They Assume Heteronormativity or Cisnormativity
If a therapist makes assumptions about your relationships, your body, or your goals based on outdated norms — like assuming you must want a heterosexual marriage or biological children — it shows a lack of cultural awareness. You deserve a therapist who asks open-ended questions and lets you define your story.
4. They Center Their Own Discomfort or Bias
You should never have to educate your therapist about LGBTQ+ basics during your sessions. Many therapists are still learning about populations outside of their own identities so it is wise to give them grace if their own information about a queer topic is not as broad as yours but if they put their own feelings or opinions above yours, it’s a sign they may not have done their own work to provide inclusive care.
5. They Minimize Experiences of Oppression
Experiences of discrimination, marginalization, or violence are real and valid parts of many LGBTQ+ people’s lives. A therapist who downplays these experiences or encourages you to “focus on the positive” without acknowledging systemic realities is not practicing trauma-informed care.
Finding the Right Fit: You Deserve Affirming Care
At AMR Therapy & Support Services, we believe therapy should be a place of unconditional support and empowerment. Our diverse team of therapists brings a range of lived experiences and professional training to ensure that every client — no matter their background, income, or identity — feels welcomed, seen, and respected.
Whether you’re seeking virtual therapy at a sliding scale rate or looking for specialized support as a high-income professional navigating complex stressors, AMR offers individualized, inclusive care that meets you where you are.
You are not too much. You do not have to explain yourself. You are worthy of spaces that celebrate your existence.
Ready to learn more about our affirming therapy options? Here’s a link to schedule a free consultation.
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