Introduction to Non-Monogamous Relationships

Let’s start with some definitions before we get into our discussion. For our purposes, let’s keep it simple for now, since a full examination of the topic would consist of dozens of blogs.

Consensual non-monogamy describes those relationships in which all participants agree that one, both or all may pursue multiple sexual relationships. These configurations can differ widely, and there are many arrangements that fall under this umbrella term.

Polyamory is for those who are open to having loving, or even committed romantic partners, and again, all involved have given their consent and support.

All Relationships Require Communication

Whether experimenting or living it, non-monogamous people face barriers and hurtles. Along with the sexual/romantic freedom comes a labyrinth of issues in a still-evolving society.

To navigate these waters in a healthy way, you should remember that there is no universal script or playbook for unconventional relationships, and all participants must find their own unique path through the following:

• Communication is key; it is the first stop on our journey. Proper discussions, debate and boundary setting take a lot of stamina, and counseling can help you to find and use that energy in your prospective relationships
• Feelings of jealousy and insecurities must be discussed with patience, compassion and understanding
• Societal and religious programming that tells us one person, one relationship ‘til death do us part.
• Government and logistical barriers which discourage progress for anything outside the majority norm. This often leads to uncertainly, shame, or complete confusion on the “how do we do this” spectrum.
• Awareness of self, partners, disapproving friends, and family. Once again, you can cope with these issues with the proper guidance and counsel.